There are lots of voices here in the “dark underbelly of the internet.” Bloggers and commenters all sharing information and giving advice…in some cases, conflicting advice. So how does a man decide who to listen to? How to separate the wheat from the chaff?

This is a complex question, but one that needs addressing. The complicating factor is that one mans wheat may be another mans chaff. I think those seeking information and advice would have a much easier time of it if we could all see and interact with each other, instead of just reading words on a screen. If you’re looking for diet advice, it would be easy to seek out the person who has the body you want. But unless everyone starts posting pictures of themselves, you never know if the person telling you what to eat is an obese shut-in, sitting at a computer shoveling McDonalds into his mouth.

The simplest way,to choose between conflicting advice, in my opinion, is to choose between the sources.

There are a few commonly held beliefs shared by everyone in this corner of the web. The most important being: Have a mission, focus on your mission. This has been said a thousand times, and that’s still not enough. Having a mission means having life goals and going for them, sacrificing whatever you must to get where you want to be. So, assuming you know your mission, find someone who has achieved your goals or is further along the path than you are, and listen to what they have to say.

If you goals is to be a freelancer who travels the world and has location independent income, you should read Roosh, Victor Pride and Matt Forney. If you want to be rich and live the fast lane, big city lifestyle, you should read Wall Street Playboys and Danger and Play. If the ramblings of a fairly successful country boy amuse you, keep reading me.

Why am I writing about this? Because I’m as guilty as anyone of thinking my way is the only right way…and that’s not the right way of thinking.

I sometimes stumble across MGTOW sites, or read advice like “never buy a house, rent forever,” and I immediately think that’s wrong. But it’s not. It’s just wrong for me. It may be exactly right for the writer and his audience. We all have different missions and want different things out of life. I think never owning your own home sounds insane, but that’s me. If we were all always on the same page, we would never finish the book.

My friend Z and I were talking the other day about life expectations. I grew up in a large house on six acres of land, with a big pool and all that. So that became my idea of “normal.” Now I’m 28 years old, living in a nice house on five acres of land. I don’t have the big pool yet, but I’m also not satisfied yet. This is what I consider the “end game” of life. House, land, wife and a kid or two, good job, 401k, etc. Retire around the age of 50, spend my days farming, hunting, trapping, working on trucks and vacationing at the beach.

Those who grow up in trailer parks usually never leave the trailer park…unless they move to another trailer park. There are always exceptions, but the general rule holds. Hood rats live and die in the hood. White, middle class kids like me end up being middle class adults with a house and a couple kids. I like to believe that I’m completely in control of my mind and choices, but I realize more and more all the time how much I was shaped by my childhood.

So take a step back and think. Think long and hard about your mission, your life goals. Are these your goals, or your parents goals? Is this your mission, or someone else’s? Don’t let anyone convince you that you must become location independent and bang chicks in Europe. Don’t let anyone convince you that getting married and settling down is the path to true manhood, either. Decide what would make you truly happy, and pursue it. Find someone who’s doing that, and learn from them. Read all you want around the Manosphere, but don’t become a PUA, MGTOW, MRA or whatever just because everyone else is doing it. Read, learn and grow…but take it all with a grain of salt and choose your own path.

Focus on YOUR mission. Not anyone elses. Only you can decide what you want, and seek advice accordingly. Separate the wheat from the chaff according to your goals, and be careful not to internalize bullshit that won’t help you. Good luck.

-Dr. Illusion

I started this blog to share my thoughts on things and help men better themselves. I’ve gotten distracted from time to time, come down with writers block, or just been too busy to post.

To get back to the original purpose of my writing, I’m going to share some of the hardest lessons I’ve learned in my life in the hope that young men just starting out will benefit from my stupidity. It’s hard to say which mistake of my youth caused me the worst or longest lasting trouble, so I’ll start out with the ones I’m still dealing with today.


Don’t Finance Anything or Borrow Money

When I was around 20, I was making decent money as an electrical apprentice. $15/hr seemed like a whole lot of money, anyway. So I decided I had to have some nice things. I got a $600 Best Buy credit card and bought a nice laptop. I financed a $6,000 motorcycle. I got another credit card. Yeah, I was an idiot.

When things started to get on top of me because I was blowing lots of cash on partying and I couldn’t make my credit card payments, I borrowed $3,000 to pay off my cards and consolidate my debt. I said I wouldn’t use my cards anymore. That lasted until I was throwing a big house party and needed money for more alcohol.

To make a long story short, the economy tanked around ’09 and I was in the construction industry. When the economy goes to shit, people stop building things. I got laid off, along with hundreds of others in my area. I though I would always have a great job and keep getting raises, and I was proven very wrong.

The bike got repossessed. I could barely make the minimum payments on my loans and credit cards between unemployment ($325/wk) and small cash jobs I could find. It sucked. I finally couldn’t pay any of my debt if I wanted to keep a roof over my head. This lasted for 6 months. By the end of that period, my credit was royally screwed and my debts had been turned over to collection agencies.

I’m still paying on some of that debt today. My credit score is just above 600. It’s very difficult to get any kind of loan. I’ve paid off most of the debts in collections, but I still owe $8,000 to one company that bought up a lot of my small debts on top of what I still owed on my bike. This is 5 years later. Think very, very hard before you swipe a credit card or finance a car/house. You may be doing great now, but the bottom could drop out at any moment. Wait until you are at least 25 before you start financing things, I know I wasn’t mature enough to handle it before then.


Be Careful Who You Surround Yourself With

As I mentioned earlier, I was quite the party animal in my younger years. I made more than most of my friends and had my own place outside town, so every weekend was a huge party at my place. During one of these parties, I turned down a female for sex. She then tried to sleep with a friend of mine, who also turned her down. She got extremely pissed and went nuts, and I slapped the hell out of her and told her to leave.

I was arrested for rape the next day. $25,000 bail. I bailed out and didn’t hear anything else about it for years until I was subpoenaed almost 3 years later to appear in court. $10,000 for a good lawyer. I couldn’t live anywhere that did background checks because I had a sex crime pending. I had to get a waiver at jobs that did background checks, with the agreement that if I were found guilty I was fired.

Of course the case was thrown out and I was acquitted, but it’s amazing how much trouble you can find yourself in if you let the wrong people into your life.

In addition to the horrible incident above, would you believe that all those people who partied with me were nowhere to be found when my money ran out? Shocking, I know. Keep your pool of friends small, and make sure they are real friends who add value to your life, not leeches who are out for all you can give.


Use Protection, No Matter What She Says


I never wanted kids. I had no intention of ever reproducing.

Then, one night, after a whole day of drinking/bar hopping with my best friend and my cousin, I came home to find a cute blonde sitting on my porch in a miniskirt. She apparently wanted to talk to me and figured I would be home soon. I was nearly blackout drunk and didn’t even think about protection. My son turned 6 last month.

While I love my kid and there’s a lot to say for Fatherhood, you don’t want your child’s mother to be some random chick you banged while drunk. I speak from experience. She now has another kid from another man, no one is sure who the father is, and he doesn’t pay her a dime…but I shell out $500/month in child support. She lives with her parents and will never make anything of herself.

That mistake leads to my next big one….

Don’t Get Married


Yes, I’m a country boy. I did “the right thing” and got married. If you want to get married and find a great girl, that’s awesome. But I offer the same advice as earlier….at least wait until you are 25. At the very least. I don’t care how mature you think you are, you’re an idiot until your mid-late 20′s. I wish I could go back and smack myself in the face for the idiotic decisions I made between 18 and 25.

And last but not least…

Obey All Traffic Laws


It sounds like a small thing, maybe even a silly thing. But a few minor traffic tickets can make your life Hell.

I started driving when I was 14 (motorcycle). I had 2 tickets by the time I was 16, which is when I got my first truck. Most of my friend’s parents couldn’t afford to buy them vehicles, so I drove everyone around all the time. Like any idiotic teenager, I had a tendency to show off/act like a fool. Get a ticket, go to court, my parents pay the ticket, whatever.

I turned 21 and got a DUI. I lost my license for a year. The day I got it back, I got another DUI. I’m about to turn 28 and I still don’t have a drivers license. I can get it back next year, but I have a take the damn drivers test again. It’s rally embarrassing to be taking your drivers test at the age of 28. That’s not to mention the cost of insurance. Luckily most of my tickets from when I was young and dumb have fallen off my record.

I know you speed all the time and never get caught, and all that rot. Just take my advice and stop before you regret it. My co-workers give me Hell all the time for doing the speed limit, as they pass me blowing their horns. But you never see me on the side of the road with flashing blue lights behind me.

Use Your Head

All these things seem like common sense, but common sense if fairly uncommon when it comes to young men. Young men are thinking about women, parties and impressing people.

Think before you act, look before you leap and all that stuff. You actions can have an impact on your life 5, even 10 years down the road. Always consider the consequences of your decisions.

-Dr. Illusoin

I know I’m a bit late to the game, but I’ve been enjoying my vacation. I actually tried to make a post several times while I was spending the week at the beach house, but I couldn’t bring myself to do the research. Every time I read the lies and libel against us from these lying, agenda driven journalists, I honestly felt nauseous. So I decided to not ruin my vacation with this disgusting garbage. But now I’m home and it’s time to address this nonsense.

I’ll begin with the obvious. Well, that which is obvious to anyone who has a functional brain and spends five minutes doing research.

Elliot Rodger was an active member of a website called “PUAHate.” In case the name doesn’t give it away, this is a site for people who hate PUAs. It’s also a bit of a catch-all for people who hate the entire Manosphere. Kind of like Manboobz, and I have no doubt that Elliot read that site as well. Elliot was not part of the Manosphere. No one who blogs in the ‘Sphere had ever heard of him until he went crazy and killed four men and two women.

That’s another important point. He killed FOUR men and TWO women. For any leftist/liberals who are reading this, I know you folks aren’t good at math, so for the record: That means he killed twice as many men as he did women. That means he killed more men than women. I know math is hard, and I can only assume that is why you people have tried to claim Elliot “killed seven women” as is stated in the petition to classify the Men’s Rights Movement as a “terrorist organization.”

I’m not a Men’s Rights Activist, nor am I a big fan of the movement. However, they are considered a part of the Manosphere, so I am very aware of their ideas and I’ve read a lot of their blogs. Let’s discuss the MRM for a moment.

Many MRAs are as liberal as they come. They are, by and large, the male version of Feminists. They want Daddy Government to fix all the problems in the world with more laws, more legislation, etc. They are basically a special interest group, lobbying for help from Big Brother. They are also very anti-violence. MRAs do not advocate violence against women, men, or anyone else. When the MRM has a conference or meetup, they state explicitly that members are not allowed to use violence, even in self defense. Should a member be attacked, they are commanded to fall on the ground and assume the fetal position while other members call for help. Yet these lying journalists/bloggers claim that the MRM is a misogynist, pro-violence, evil organization. You people should try doing some research. I know reading is hard, but try it. You could save yourself from looking like complete idiots to those who are better informed. It’s also worth noting that a lot of MRAs are women.

Now let’s talk PUAs. For those who aren’t aware, PUA is the abbreviation for “Pick Up Artist.” PUAs focus all their time and energy on having casual sex with women. Not killing women. Not hating women. Not going on murderous rampages. The PUAs want nothing more in life than to have women pay attention to them and have sex with them. The last thing a PUA would want is for a woman to die, because that’s one woman that they won’t be able to have sex with. Are they a bit ridiculous sometimes? Absolutely. PUAs are willing to give up money, security, stability and anything else required if it means they can move to whatever third world country Roosh has identified as a “pussy paradise” this week. It’s sad, but far from dangerous or violent.

Now that I’ve covered the two sub-sects of the Manosphere that Elliot Rodger was supposedly associated with, let’s talk about Elliot. He was the son of a Hollywood small timer. His Dad probably could have done a lot better for himself and his son if he had stuck with working for other people instead of blowing all his money on making his own shitty documentary. Bygones. Elliot’s parents divorced and she had a series of boyfriends. This isn’t good for any child, but he was already pretty fucked up so who knows if a stable family life would have helped him.

Elliot’s biggest problem was his sense of entitlement. Mommy and Daddy gave him everything he wanted, so he assumed the rest of the world should lick his ass too. When that didn’t happen, he retreated into the world of video games, most notably “World of Warcraft.” If one thing should arise from all this, it should be the realization that MMORPGs are probably the worst thing for people. I had a friend once who was hooked on WoW (World of Warcraft.) He’s not my friend anymore because he’s dead. He shot himself in the head because he couldn’t cope with the real world after spending his formative teenage years in an online fantasy world. Think about it. I would rather catch my son jacking off to gay porn than playing World of Warcraft. No, I’m not exaggerating.

Now that I’ve laid out the truth about MRAs, PUAs, and Elliot Rodger, it’s time to talk about the media response to this tragedy.

Despite the fact that Elliot was a member of PUAHate, an anti-Manosphere community, many journalists and bloggers have seized on this tragedy as an opportunity to promote their agendas. Primarily, their desire to vilify and destroy masculinity and all remaining “male-only spaces,” even those on the internet. So let’s name some names and call these lying, slandering, insults to the profession of journalism out into the light, shall we? They gave up their journalistic integrity to promote a damaging leftist agenda, and it’s time to bring them front and center.

The top name on my list is Caitlin Dewey.  Caitlin wrote an article for the Washington Post called “Inside the ‘Manosphere’ That Inspired Santa Barbara Shooter Elliot Rodger.” I’m not going to write an excessive amount about this liar, since Matt Forney has already done a great write-up on her. You can also check out the Podcast by Aurini and myself for more info.

In short, Caitlin blames the Manosphere for Elliot’s actions. The most glaringly dishonest sentence from her article is: “Rodger has personally been linked to an account on the pick-up site” Can you even read that sentence without your brain hurting from attempting to fathom the logic (or lack thereof)? A PICK UP SITE (aka a PUA site) called PUAHATE? That’s like saying he was a member of a Christian site called IHATEGOD. It truly boggles the mind. Only two conclusions could be drawn from this. Either Caitlin Dewey is severely mentally handicapped, in which case no one should take her writing seriously, or she is purposefully and intentionally lying in order to promote an agenda. I will let you draw your own conclusions.

Next up is Christie Hartman. She wrote an article called “Rejection, Self-Entitlement, Misogyny, and Murder.”   In this article, she claims that Elliot was an active member of many PUA and MRA sites. And I quote:

“This murderer was an active member of some PUA (Pick-up Artist) and MRA (Men’s Rights Activist) communities, and his rants had the all-too-familiar tags of someone who’d spent far too much time there.”

After I called her out on Twitter for being the lying bitch that she is, she added a correction to the article:

” [CORRECTION: It seems he was a member of PUA HATE, a site that criticized PUAs but is considered by some to represent the negative aspects of PUA and MRA beliefs/criticisms about women. Much of his manifesto reflected some of these beliefs.] “

So, even after being called out as a liar and going as far as to add a correction, she still cannot help but make the correction a stab at the Manosphere. “Is considered by some to represent the negative aspects of PUA and MRA.” Really? How could that be, considering these people are the antithesis of the MRA and PUA community? They are the enemies of these communities. Perhaps they represent what you WANT the MRA and PUAs to be about, so you associate them with us despite them being rejects from the Manosphere? I don’t care that she printed an underhanded insult and called it a correction, she shouldn’t have written shit she hadn’t done research on and slandered an entire community unjustly.

The next specimen up for examination is Fredrik DeBoer. His parents inability to spell his name properly is just the beginning of his issues.

Fredrik wrote and article called “Destroy Traditional Masculinity.” I think the title tells you everything you need to know, but here’s an excerpt:

“The association of male value with aggression, dominance, and power is one of the most destructive forces in the world, and so it has to be destroyed. Traditional masculinity has to die in just the same way that sexism and racism and homophobia have to die. It can’t be reformed, it can’t be rescued. It has to be replaced. It’s utterly infected, with the celebration of violence, sexual entitlement, throbbing misogyny, and a fake self-confidence that is almost always hiding total self-loathing. If the kind of sick masculinity that leads to these  crimes were a religion, people would call it incompatible with modernity.”

I think “Fredrik” is very confused about traditional masculinity. You should definitely click the link and read the entire article, and tell him what you think in the comments. Traditional masculinity brings to mind words like chivalry, fatherhood, protection, and provider. While some members of the Manosphere consider “provider” to be a descriptor of “Beta male,” I don’t agree. The traditional masculine man provided for his family, protected his loved ones, and sacrificed anything, up to and including his life, for his family and his country. And this needs to be destroyed? Perhaps some of the ridiculous modern notions of the “badass, asshole pussy slayer” need to go, but traditional masculinity? Not so much.

Yes, power and dominance are part of masculinity. They are part of what makes a man. As is the capacity for violence. I promise you, dear reader, that all the citizens of France who were liberated from Nazi occupation by American soldiers (men) were not complaining about the male capacity for violence. The capacity for violence is an integral part of Manhood, but you are supposed to use it to protect yourself and the weak/innocent, not to pick fights in bars or rape/murder innocent people. That’s it for “Fredrik.” Maybe if his parents had been able to spell he wouldn’t have turned into such a mangina.

The last “journalist” I’m going to call out right now is Linda Kelsey. She wrote an article for the Daily Mail titled “Inside the World of the Woman Haters.”  Please read the entire article, it’s completely ridiculous and full of libel.

She spends several paragraphs attacking PUAs and MRAs, claiming that both groups are just woman haters, and even goes so far as to claim that there are MRA sites where women are “scored from 1 to 10″ and objectified. I’ve been a member of the Manosphere for several years, and I’ve yet to encounter a MRA site that objectifies women. Perhaps she doesn’t know the difference between MRAs and PUAs? Here’s a quote:

“There are also Men’s Rights websites on which women are rated from one to ten. One man was ‘semi-depressed’ because although he claimed to be attractive and intelligent, he said could never find a woman to sleep with whom he rated above a ‘seven’. “

If anyone can find me a Men’s Rights website that focuses on rating women on a number scale, please let me know. Otherwise, I call out Linda Kelsey for libel, slander and a total lack of journalistic integrity. Oddly enough, after her erroneous rant about PUAs and MRAs, she finally comes around to PUAHate and admits that it’s the only website that Rodger actually visited.

The hatred of women doesn’t stop there. For those young men who fail to lure the girl of their choice, there was, until this week, This was used by Rodger himself, and some members were hailing the killer as a hero for his actions. It has now been taken down but there are many others like it out there.”

So, let’s recap. The only site that Elliot Rodger was an active member of was PUA Hate. PUA Hate is an anti-Manosphere site. Yet certain lying journalists have somehow attempted to link Elliot’s activity on PUA Hate with being an active PUA and MRA. If you can’t see the idiocy and dishonesty of this, there is nothing I can do for you.

>My friend Matt Forney has sent me links to many more articles written by lying scumbags, but I think this post is long enough. I will be doing more installments in this series until every journalist who lies about us has been called out. I ask my readers to post links in the comments section to any writers/articles you would like me to call out in my future installments and I thank you in advance for the help.

It’s good to be back. Let’s stand up for ourselves and get the truth out there.

-Dr. Illusion

It was a dreary and stormy Friday night at the billiards hall. Doctor Illusion, Mistress, and myself were shooting a few games of pool while enjoying some drinks. Two girls walked in and started playing at the table adjacent to ours. One of the girls had a tiny man clasped to her at all times, like a mosquito in fear of losing it’s fresh blood supply. The other girl looked as if she was very desperate to find a blood sucking parasite of her own, dressed up in what I can only imagine she thought was what women were supposed to wear to attract a mate. High heels she could barely walk in, a shirt with some shiny shit on it, and jeans. Her make up was caked on like a french prostitute, or maybe she was going to be hunting raccoons later that evening and was making sure her eyes were properly camouflaged for the event. Doc Illusion and I had quite a laugh at this spectacle.

The night continued and much to our surprise there were what appeared to be members of the male species approaching this girl and chatting her up. Sure, they looked like they were fresh out of a Dungeons and Dragons convention, but still surprising nonetheless. What followed was strange. Like men bringing sacrifices of wine and blood to the alter of a goddess…these men continually were whipping out their wallets to pay for drinks for this girl. Not one at a time, no this was a crowd of at least three very desperate men of unquestionable thirst. For they must have walked through a desert after being brought prophetic visions of an entity that could cure the thirst they had in their throats.

After watching this display of madness for nearly three hours, none of them actually made a move. Never actually attempted to dip their toes into the waters. They just continued to burn a hole into their wallets and seeing absolutely no return on their investment gamble. We watched this girl just leave the bar without even so much as giving a hug to these pitiful men. They instead opted to give Doc Illusion a hug because he had played some 90s boy band music (for himself) that they enjoyed.

Don’t lay down a sacrifice to a non existent goddess. Invest in yourself and let others reap the benefits of it.

Good evening, gentlemen.

For those of you paying close attention to my blog, you may have noticed that my earlier post about Tucker Max went private. I’m going to tell you why.

After writing a scathing post about Tucker, Geoffrey and Mating Grounds that quickly went to the top 3 in Google searches for Mating Grounds, I realized that I was working off of 2nd hand information that I had not bothered to confirm personally. I had never talked to the guy, I hadn’t read the tweets that bloggers were quoting, nothing. I was attacking based solely on second and third hand information from other bloggers, many of whom were also operating on hearsay.

As you all know, I am a major advocate of personal responsibility, ownership of every action including mistakes, etc. If I make a mistake, I have only myself to blame. I decided I needed more info if I was going to let that negative post remain on the first page of Google results. So I grabbed my phone and tweeted Tucker.

I admit I was rather brash and adversarial with my tweet. I basically called him a liar and told him we would kill his project before it even launched. My blood was still running a little hot from all the Manosphere drama of the week. I was aggressive, Tucker got defensive, we had some back and forth. I won’t delve too deep into it, but those who follow me on Twitter (@DoctorIllusion) can check it out if you’re interested.

I realized he seemed a bit surprised and dumbfounded by the attacks, and began to wonder if he had consciously snubbed the ‘Sphere or if there may have been a misunderstanding. I eased back on the aggression and started trying to have an honest conversation. Tucker was willing to do so, and we went from tweeting to direct messaging. From there we went to email.

I explained to him that the main issue we all had was him essentially denying our existence and claiming we weren’t writing about the exact things he and Geoffrey were planning to write about. He admitted that he had been wondering why 4 guys kept attacking him on Twitter over the content of a site he hadn’t even launched yet, and asked me to reserve judgement about content theft until he actually put up some content and launched the site. This seemed reasonable. But the problem of his denying our existence was still there, and I wanted to put this thing to rest once and for all.

So, for about 6 (beer soaked and smoke filled) hours, we went back and forth and got down to brass tacks. I contacted people for more info on what’s been said, etc. The real picture formed from the haze (or maybe that was just smoke.)

First off, he didn’t say the entire Manosphere was dressed up PUA residue. He said that was mostly the case, and I confirmed this with screenshots of his old tweets taken by Wald. And I cannot honestly deny what he was saying. When you first enter the Manosphere, you will encounter Roosh, Roissy, Rollo, Krauser, etc. These are guys who write almost exclusively about women, pick-up, sex, hypergamy, negging, etc. So I could see where he was coming from. I consider anyone who writes almost exclusively about women to be somewhat of a pussy worshipper/PUA. Men who are used to getting the women they want don’t feel the need to talk about it all day and night. It’s just business as usual.

So, now that he and I were on easy terms and the aggression and hostility was done with, I felt that we could bury the hatchet between us and preferably with the whole Manosphere. That would, of course, involve Tucker publicly admitting that we exist, he knows about us, and that we have been writing about women, sex and self improvement for years.

So, and I quote precisely without any editing or paraphrasing, Tucker’s official statement regarding the Manosphere:

“Of course the Manosphere exists. I never said it didn’t. And of course the Manosphere has been writing about women, sex, dating, etc, for a long time. I never said it didn’t. Dude, I (kind of) predate the Manosphere on the internet, I remember it’s emergence. It’s been great for a lot of guys. I even think there are some really good  Manosphere sites (I also think many are badly regurgitated PUA bullshit, but whatever).

That being said, our site (and book, when it comes out) are going to fill a space that no Manosphere site is occupying. We’re going to approach sex and dating in a way it hasn’t been approached before, and provide a perspective that neither Geoff not I have seen. 

Or, maybe I should say it this way: we’re going to write about issues like sex, dating and women for young guys in a way that we think will be better, clearer and more impactful than anything else (in or out of the Manosphere). And we are pretty certain we’ll do it in such a way that it’ll get more attention, and have more mainstream reach, and ultimately help more guys.”

So, there you have it. Tucker openly admits that he has read the Manosphere, has followed it since the beginning, and acknowledges that we produce some good content about the exact same things he is building his new site around.

I remember Danger and Play saying “If he said I’m going to do it better, I wouldn’t mind.” So here you go, Mike.

Tucker thinks that he and Geoffrey can do what we do, in a new way and a new niche, and do it better. I’m willing to accept that challenge. I hope you guys are as well.

A few other things that were discussed in this conversation: Tucker realizes that the media has to put labels on everything, and knows that the label Mating Grounds will end up with is “Manosphere site.” He wants to avoid that for as long as he can, to avoid the bad press during the start-up phase, but he agrees that the negative opinion of the Manosphere as a whole is bullshit. Once the media labels his site “Manosphere” we will all get more attention and traffic. We’ve been preparing for this since last year, we can deal with public exposure.

This is me burying the hatchet. I’m done attacking and/or gainsaying Mating Grounds. Tucker has made his amends, he admits we exist and that he reads us from time to time, he admits we’ve been writing about this stuff for years. He assures me he will stand behind that quote, and I believe him. So, if you truly feel he is ripping off your content, you can come here for evidence that he’s been aware of us for years, if that makes you feel better.

If anyone has any questions or wants to know more about all of this, shoot me a comment.

-Dr. Illusion

Ah, Viva la Manosphere. A popular aggregator that’s provided a boost in traffic to many Manosphere blogs, run by a fellow calling himself Jack who makes money from ads while not actually producing original content. I can live with that, of course. He’s still putting in a little work. I do have a problem with him ripping off content for cash while not giving credit where it’s do. I also have a problem with him trying to create a monetized site to compete with a Manosphere blogger, considering the ‘Sphere already provides him with money.

I’m not going to tell the entire story here, since  Thumotic has already done a great job of that. Jose also wrote about this.  I’ll just give a brief summary here.

Mike from D&P has spent years experimenting with juicing. Putting together and testing different recipes and blends, figuring out what juice blends can help with specific goals of health problems, and laying down lots of cash to try dozens of juicers so he can make the best recommendations. Lots of his time and money went into learning all he could about juicing. Then he built a site called Fit Juice where he compiled all of the things he learned and shared this info with the rest of us. Take a good look at his site.

Along comes Jack from Viva la Manosphere. Jack has never mentioned juicing. I don’t think Jack actually juices. But Jack decided he would make a website filled with great juicing info and make money through ads and affiliate marketing. His site is called Juicing Hacks. Take a look at Jacks site. It should seem startlingly familiar, since you just checked out Mikes site. Almost exactly alike, with almost the exact same content….

After launching Juicing Hacks, Jack stopped linking to Danger and Play. Another odd development. Perhaps because he didn’t want people to make the connection between his new marketing site and Fit Juice, which has been around for a while and is actually filled with original, field tested information.

So, in brief, Jack is trying to take someone elses hard work and effort, re-package it very slightly, and then make money off of it. I wonder if Jack and Tucker Max are related? They certainly seem to think alike, but in this case it’s not a case of “great minds.” Perhaps Uncle Mitch is right and we’ve reached some sort of critical mass, because lying scam artists seem to be coming out of the woodwork to profit from our hard work and content.

I never liked Jack, I never sought him out, emailed him or asked him to put me on his aggregator. I had a bad feeling about him from the start, and I know a few others did as well. He refused to review a bloggers book unless he could make money through an affiliate link. He tried to control what content belonged in the Manosphere and what didn’t. He never linked my site, so I have no idea how much traffic he was sending to other bloggers. I don’t worry about traffic, so I don’t particularly care. Uncle Mitch once asked him why he never linked me. He said I was too racist and controversial. Too controversial for the Manosphere. That’s really saying something. As YouSoWould said on Twitter….he was trying to control Manosphere content, when the whole point of the ‘Sphere is the free exchange of ideas between men, without censorship or PC bullshit.

So, if you haven’t already, take a moment to remove Viva la Manosphere from your blogrolls. He’s shown his true colors and has no right to stand among real, content producing men of the ‘Sphere. It’s past time to take out the trash.

-Dr. Illusion

It’s been a while since I’ve written. I tried my best to break my cycle and not allow a lull in my writing during Winter, but I obviously failed. There were other factors contributing to my lack of desire to write, but there’s no need to go into them. Anyone who follows me on Twitter or knows me in real life is well aware of the issues I’ve had. But I’m back.

Spring has arrived, at least here in the deep South. I’ve been enjoying the warm weather and sunshine. I’ve begun the planting season and already have squash, zucchini, tomatoes and peppers growing. My rabbits have given birth to their second litter of kits. I did a lot of maintenance on my trucks over the last few months and they are both running better than ever. I got a promotion at work last week and I’m working on another one. While I haven’t been writing much, I haven’t been entirely unproductive either.

The gang got together for a meetup in New Orleans a couple weeks ago. Most of it was fun, but it ended badly for me. Some of the events of the meetup led to a restructuring of a lot of social circles, hopefully for the better. I finally met Matt Forney, who I’ve been corresponding with for a few years now. I also met commenter BA for the for the first time, along with the bright and crazy Jeremy Sploosh. All great people. Forney gave me a stern lecture about my lack of writing. It’s nice to know my absences are noticed.

There’s a lot of turmoil in the Manosphere right now, which isn’t exactly uncommon. Jack from Viva la Manosphere showed his true colors as a leech who is out for naught but money, stealing content and trying to market other peoples work for profit. I never liked the guy. From the moment Viva popped up, I haven’t had a good feeling about him. My good friend Young Hunter felt the same way. A few others were suspicious as well. Now we all know what he’s really after and hopefully everyone will stop linking him and helping him make money from the work of others.

Tucker Max has started a new website to fill a supposedly empty niche, namely straightforward advice about dating, women and self improvement. I suppose he didn’t notice the giant fucking Manosphere already occupying said niche and doing a good job of it. Anything you want to know about women, dating, lifting, vitamins and supplements, testosterone, starting a small business or just correcting your posture and body language can be found right here on the Manosphere. Tuckers new site will be nothing but remarketing our work in a more PC manner to make money for himself. We all know this. There’s little we can do about it, aside from exposing him for the lying opportunist he is.  Several blogger like Danger and Play  and Uncle Mitch have already done so.

I’ll do my best to start posting regularly again. Give me some feedback, let me know what you’d like to see me write about in the weeks to come. I could use a little help and some ideas to get the ball rolling again. It’s good to be back.

-Dr. Illusion

Nothing is no one is perfect. This is a fact that anyone with a functional brain should be able to agree upon. Thus, failure should always be anticipated and factored into any plan…especially human failure.

As I mentioned in a previous post, everyone should have an air compressor, tire gauge and tire repair kit in their vehicle, more so if going on a long trip. This is, of course, in addition to a jack and a spare tire. Because sometimes shit happens. Sometimes your spare doesn’t hold air for some reason, or your jack breaks, or any number of other things occur. When possible, have multiple fallback options. Redundancy is highly underrated.

To add on to the things listed above; I also keep a quart of oil, a bottle of power steering fluid and brake fluid in my truck. To go even farther and sound a bit extreme, when I’m driving regularly I keep a tent, sleeping bag, a few MREs, a collapsible fishing pole, small tackle box and fire starting implements….but I’m not saying you need to go that far.

Always assume something is going to go wrong, and try to think of all the possibilities. This applies to all things, not just driving, of course. I work with a fellow who kept his generator in his garage. During a power loss caused by a hurricane, he was running his generator…in his garage…and had a 5 gallon container of fuel nearby to keep the generator fueled up. If you cannot see how this story ends, this post will be lost on you. His house burned to the ground. While that was definitely very poor planning, it’s nothing compared to the people who died of carbon monoxide poison recently because they were running the generator INSIDE the house. Darwinism at work.

This coworker could have prevented this calamity by anticipating failure. A generator is a combustion motor. Combustion means fire, burning fuel ignited by an electric spark. Keeping a combustion motor running in a garage attached to your house is already iffy, in my book. I wouldn’t have done it, personally, but I’m sure keeping the generator in the garage is somewhat common. But then add the fuel container. Gas produces highly flammable fumes. So you have 5 gallons of gas, constantly producing combustible vapour…in an enclosed space with a combustion motor. I guess he assumed that the sparks and fire would remain internal and not present a problem. In a perfect world, this would be true. What specific failure caused the fire? Did the generator simply overheat, did the electrical receptacle on the outside spark/arc or did the fumes simply get sucked into the intake and ignite all the vapour in the garage? Who knows. It shouldn’t have happened. But it should have been anticipated.

Human failure is just as common, if not more common, than mechanical failure. The old saying “If you want something done right, do it yourself,” couldn’t be more true.

I got a call this morning at 5:45 to check out a conductivity transmitter that was giving a flat-line signal. I am relieved of duty at 6:00, so I continued putting my tools away and informed Bill of the issue so he could address it during his 12 hour shift. I returned to work this evening, relieved Bill and immediately logged on to the system to check the signal from that transmitter. Still flat-lined. Unsurprisingly, instead of doing his job, he did nothing for 12 hours. So I went and fixed the problem. This is perfectly normal and I don’t usually pass things on to the next tech.  I typically stay over and fix it myself, because otherwise I will be working on it when I come back.

While it’s  pessimistic view to hold, I assume everyone around me is incompetent and unreliable until they prove otherwise. When I assign someone a task, I do so fully expecting to have to help them or do it myself eventually. On the bright side, I’m rarely disappointed. I’ve learned not to let the failure of others bother me. I factor it in from the beginning.

Take women, for example. You meet a girl, hit it off and exchange numbers. You end up arranging a date later, she’s supposed to meet you somewhere at 8. Do you clear your schedule for the night and head to the date with total confidence of everything going as planned? No, you have a fallback plan to meet up with some friends at the bar and assume this bitch is going to flake on you. Classic example of human failure, and one most Manosphere readers should be familiar with.

By anticipating and planning for failure, both mechanical and human, you can make your life much less frustrating and greatly reduce your stress levels. When you expect the unexpected, it doesn’t throw you for a loop or ruin your day. You’re already planned for this, you’re equipped to handle it and get right back on track. Anything bad that can happen, will happen. See it coming and don’t let it screw up your equilibrium.

Prior Proper Planning Prevents Piss Poor Production

-Dr. Illusion