Having read quite a bit about the MGTOW movement and other responses to feminism, I’ve been noticing many of the “solutions” are based solely on negative reinforcement.
Some, or even many, women have embraced feminism and all of it’s poisonous ideas. Some women have become masculine, ball busting, hypergamous bitches. This is irrefutable fact, and I don’t deny it.
The response of many men on the ‘Sphere has been to reject all women. And I, of course, get called a White Knight and a mangina for having a girl in my life that I care about. But that’s no problem. As Uncle Mitch said recently….I love haters.
Here’s the problem I see with this. Not all women are bad. Do all women share the same basic instincts and urges? Most certainly. Do all women act on them? Not necessarily. Or at least I have not found this to be the case. Let’s follow the MGTOW strategy to it’s logical conclusion, assuming all men were to adopt it.
Those good women out there, the feminine women who want nothing more than to find a husband and make him happy…end up alone and childless. Rejected by all quality men based solely on the actions of their less worthy sisters, they begin to hate men and embrace feminism. Now we have a bunch of bitter, sexless men and angry, sexless, feminist women. That’s not the future I want, but to each their own.
I realize this will never happen, because all men are not going to embrace MGTOW and reject all women.
This doesn’t change the fact that many men are putting this forth as the solution. Never defend a woman, never have any dealings with women if you can avoid it, punish them all for the actions of the few. Where I live, it truly is the few. Feminists are extremely hard to find around here, as I’ve proven over the last year by finding a total of 5, and 3 of those were male.
I don’t think this approach is going to accomplish anything. The main reason being too few men are taking this route to even be noticed. Are there less men getting married? Yes. I don’t think the cause is truly a “marriage strike,” however. There are plenty of women who aren’t getting married, choosing instead to focus on their careers and live the Sex in the City lifestyle. Many men like myself are still in committed, long term relationships, we are just not signing a state document to prove it. The “marriage strike” is not nearly as nefarious as it’s cracked up to be. Both sides are losing interest in this decaying institution.
The other reason it won’t work is outlined above, in my hypothetical situation. Negative reinforcement alone does not work. Punishing the good women along with the bad is just throwing the baby out with the bathwater.
We should be rewarding the good women, the feminine women, the women who eschew feminist nonsense and still want a traditional life and traditional gender roles. Otherwise we are just driving them into the arms of their evil feminist step sisters.
Protect and nurture the good women. Defend them from the scorn and ridicule of their “more enlightened” friends and family. Compliment them on wearing dresses and growing their hair long. Openly grace them with attention from a high value man, let them and everyone around know exactly why they are lucky enough to receive your masculine good qualities while the trash is snubbed, as they deserve to be.
This is the way to change things. And many men are realizing this. Leap of a Beta is looking to change his ways from living free on the fringes and sleeping around to finding a good career and a good woman. Remy Sheppard recently got married. Mark Minter put aside his hate and bitterness and found love. M3 has stopped blaming the entire female sex for his bad relationships and has found a woman he loves. Men are moving past the bitterness, the beta rage, the misogyny that comes from realizing you’ve been lied to and blind to the ways of modern women.
The typical man enters the Manosphere because he goes through a divorce, or he can’t find a woman, or he’s been stuck in the friend zone his whole life thinking being nice enough will get him laid.
The rage is understandable, upon taking the Red Pill and waking up to the lies and manipulation of a lifetime.
But it should only be a phase.
Once you have learned to seek the truth, once the scales have fallen from your eyes and you have internalized Game, you should be a better and more complete man. You should be the Alpha male, ready to grasp life by the balls and handle your shit. And you shouldn’t be afraid of the Big Bad Woman.
In summary: Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. Women are not the enemy, feminism is. Reward the good while punishing the bad. Get past the rage and become a better man with the life and the woman/women you want. It’s time for the Manosphere to transcend, to move on to the next phase.
Let’s kick ass and get laid.