I’ve been pretty lax in my reading and writing here on the Manosphere lately. I seem to read/write in phases depending on my mood and apparently the seasons, since Winter seems to be my typical slow time. I do more reading of novels than blogs. Since I’ve been diving back in the past few weeks, I’ve noticed a trend. A lot of Manosphere bloggers are going on hiatus or bowing out entirely.
My good friend Young Hunter who used to write at Embrace The Hunt has allowed his hosting to lapse and his blog to disappear. Luckily he’s a personal friend so we still talk regularly but I do miss his writing. He basically lost interest in what the Manosphere was becoming and no longer wanted to be a part of it. He also fell victim to the feeling we have both gotten from time to time, that we are just beating out heads against the wall.
Matt from 3 Bromigos has expressed his lagging interest as well, and says he will not be writing much anymore. Several others have been making sweeping anti-Manosphere generalizations on Twitter. I’m reminded of the period right after I started blogging, when several good blogs shut down.
Aside from the closing of some blogs, there’s also a lot of disgust and apathy about several aspects of the ‘Sphere. A lot of comments have been made about the influx and popularity of female bloggers. Speculation about the honesty of many bloggers and commenters has been expressed. There just seems to be a general bad taste in a lot of mouths lately. And I can fully understand where it’s coming from, as I’ve experienced it myself. Let’s address a few of the points raised recently.
Female bloggers. Yes, there are a surprising number of them involved, especially considering this corner of the web being called the bloody Manosphere. There has been a lot of bitterness vented about how female bloggers get more readers and commenters than even the best of the male writers. The only female blogger I ever read is Sunshine Mary, so I really don’t know anything about the others. I only read SSM sporadically lately because reading through her comment section makes me physically ill. But I digress. Why does the existence of female “red pill” blogs bother some men so much? I can think of several reasons, first and foremost the desire for ‘male-only spaces.’ We aren’t allowed to have them in the real world, and it seems we cannot even have them here. And everyone feels a certain amount of disgust when they see supposedly red pill men flocking to and validating any woman who wanders into the dark underbelly of the internet. I only have one piece of advice for those who are unhappy about this situation: Keep in mind, they are only part of the Manosphere if we accept them and link them. No woman can simply declare herself a part of the Manosphere. We have a right to be here by virtue of masculinity, they require special exemption. Starve the flower and it withers.
As far as the honesty of some denizens here, regarding how they represent themselves vs who they really are….who cares? A lot of us are showing our faces lately. I’m sure that trend will continue to spread. If you don’t think a person is really the bad ass Alpha he claims and he isn’t really banging 10s every night while making $10,000 a month from his private business or whatever, don’t read his stuff. I take all claims made on the internet with a whole shaker of salt, unless I’ve met that person or speak to them on the phone regularly. Luckily I’ve met or speak regularly to all my favourite bloggers, so it’s a non-issue. Don’t let the nonsense of some turn you against the whole.
There’s a lot of outright silliness in the ‘Sphere. Dumb but oft-repeated tropes like “All American women are trashy, masculine whores,” “Never, ever get married under any circumstances because every woman just wants to screw you over” and the like. Not to mention the troves of manospambots who apparently have no lives because they can swarm and ruin a comment section within minutes of a post being published.
I called this post Manosphere: Evolution for a reason. It’s changing, as always. New writers appear, others vanish. There’s a little less blatant rage against women and more self-improvement all the time, at least in the more established areas. More discussion of Faith and Virtue, a little less glorification of hedonism. By and large, we seem to be leaving our adolescence and entering adulthood. This makes the divide between the sheep in wolves clothing and the serious men all the more obvious. Mainstream exposure continues to increase, for good or ill. I see a divide coming soon, since it’s mostly the experienced bloggers who have been around for a while that are making negative comments about the changing face of our group. Possibly a breaking away and disavowal of the Manosphere by the old hands, leaving it to the spambots and women? What will this new Sphere be called? Food for thought.
For those who are growing disillusioned with the ‘Sphere, I ask you this: Why are you here? No, I don’t mean that in a snarky or sarcastic/scathing way.
If you’re a blogger, why are you writing? I write to spread information and offer people a different way of living. To wake people up and show them what’s really going on, fight off the brainwashing and make them really start thinking and doubting the accepted narrative. I will continue to write regardless of annoyances in the ‘sphere. If I help a few people, it’s worth my time. There comes a point where you’ve learned about as much as you can from others, and it’s all a personal journey of growth and improvement from there. Your experiences and thoughts can still help others, however. You started writing for a reason. Has that changed?
Don’t let hecklers in the audience stop you from sharing your message.