Illusion Of Sanity

I have been involved in a very long comment discussion over at Rational Male about Long Term Relationships and Slut Shaming. Rollo wrote a good artice about a young man who came to him for advice. I certainly recommend reading the entire artice, so I am not going to go into it here. Check out the full post, and all of Rollo’s writing. Esentially, Rollo told the guy that he should not be worried about a LTR at his age. Amen, brother.

A young, admitted Beta came in and started putting us all down, saying we had things all wrong and extolling the wonders of LTRs for a young man. I’m just going to adress this here, since this had me thinking. You can also read my comments over at Rational Male. The discussion was interesting and is still ongoing.

When you are a young man, from high school on to late 20’s, maybe even 30 years old, don’t let a woman derail you, son. You need to be focused on yourself. Being the best man you can be. Focus on your career, education and finances. Build yourself up. Hit the gym, or work out at home. Watch what you eat. These are the things you should be worried about.

Am I telling you not to chase tail? Hell no, I would never recommend that. Casual dating? Go for it. But for your own sake, don’t get emotionally invest and tied down to a woman yet. For many, many reasons.

First off, you don’t even know who you are yet. You may have a good idea, but you will look back in a decade and realize you were bloody clueless. I know I did.

You don’t know what you want. You think you have a good girl that you should hang on to? You don’t even know what a good girl is yet, to you. I am going to write about my 3 bad experiences in future posts, to give you a little background. But trust me….you don’t know how to spot a good one.

She damn sure doesn’t know what she wants or who she is. Women barely know what they want from one day to the next, you think she is going to be the same person and want the same things a few years down the road? If that were so, why would the divorce rates be so high?

You don’t want to waste these years trying to keep a woman happy. First off, you can’t. You don’t have enough value yet. I can hear people saying “yes I do, I’m a great person”. Shut up. I, for one, am not a great person. I am judgemental, condescending, sarcastic, and self-serving. Come on, Mr. Nice Guy. Let’s go out together and see who gets laid.

In your late teens and early twenties, you just cannot fight the hypergamy. (For those of you who are not aware, hypergamy is the female imperative to be with the best man she can get her hands on, even if that means cheating, divorce, or just dumping you for the next rung on the ladder.) You probably don’t have an awesome career, stability, own a home, and a fat bank account. I’m not insulting you. You’re young, this is the time to be growing and achieving.

Women take a lot of work to keep happy. You, as a man, have resources. Your time, attention, and energy. Don’t waste these resources on trying to make some chick happy. You bloody well need these resources to build yourself up. By all means, play the field. This will teach you how to approach, how to make the pick-up, give you much needed experience. But don’t invest resources into these women.

Using your resources for pick-ups and getting laid will teach you to understand women. It will teach you what turns them on, how to handle them. But most of all, it will teach you not to put them on a pedestal. After banging quite a few of them, you will figure out that the myth of women being “mysterious and impossible to understand” is total bullshit. This is a step in the right direction. Make the pick-up, get the notch, and as soon as she tests you or tries to change you or pull anything on you, bounce that precious snowflake. The end.

In a few years, you will have your life on lock-down. You are advancing in your career, have your own place, you know how to dress (thanks to all the field research you have been doing to get all these notches in your belt), and you realize women are not special. You realize they are not scarce. You realize what they look like in the morning with smeared make-up and bad breath. And you know they crap and pee just like you do. They are off the pedestal. You are not afraid of them. Bravo, sir. Now, you still want that Long Term Relationship? Getting tired of playing the field?

I have good news for you. You are now a Man of Value. You know how to handle a woman. You know not to pander to her (why the hell would you, you’ve screwed so many). The world is your oyster, son. You’ve been working out, you’ve been taking care of yourself, you look great. Your game is solid. Screw hypergamy, you’re the best guy these chicks can hope for. You’re probably 26-30 years old now. What should you be looking for in a LTR?

A hot young woman between 18-22. Yes, that’s right. You know how earlier I said you, as a young man, could not make a girl happy and satisfy her hypergamy? There is a reason for that. Older men with high value are fishing out of the same pond. Now you can pull and lock down that gorgeous girl you would have never had a chance of keeping when you were her age. Get her young, straighen her out. Keep her around till she gives you a reason not to, rinse lather repeat.

I must always remind everyone of my most important rule: Don’t date a chick you age, or even close to it. Especially if you plan on keeping her around. No one wants to bang an old chick. It’s just the truth. When you’re 40, you don’t wan’t your woman to be 40….how many 40 year old women have you seen that turned you on? My point exactly.

Wow, I think I just laid out he entire concept of Game in one post. That is, for a young man just getting started. What am I missing? Project confidence, keep you chin up (literally….don’t look at the ground, bro. Look dead ahead, lift your chin about another half inch….hold that),  have good posture, don’t fear rejection. Don’t get married. Yeah, that pretty much sums up Game. Ok, not really, but I did squeeze a lot of good info in there.

Moving on. The commentor Alfonso over at RM also claims that all of us Gamers are doing the wrong thing. Instead of “endorsing” or “condoning” women riding the cock carousel, we need to be shaming and ostracizing them.

I have so much to say about this. First off, read my blog. If you see anything in here that seems like I am endorsing sluts, let me know. I was probably drunk when I wrote it. I blast sluts all the time on my blog, as do most Gamers.

But unless All Men started shaming and ostracizing sluts, doing it in real life is only going to accomplish you not getting laid. If it’s your sister, cousin, whatever, shame all you want. But if it’s a hot chick with hot friends, I hope I don’t have to tell you that it’s not advisable. Don’t cock block yourself, that’s just…..I don’t even have a word.

But as far as actively condoning and endorsing slutty behaviour, the only time I do this is when I am helping a woman rationalize what she is about to do (which would be going ass up on my bed). Once I have what I want, she becomes pretty much a non-entity unless she has hot friends I wanna bang too, in which case I have to be nice.

One of the wonderful things about the internet is that we can say what we really think about these sluts without cock blocking ourselves. Alfonso, this is the place to get it out of your system. Rage and scream about these worthless pieces of trash. Call them every name under the sun. Get all that hate out. It makes it that much easier to smile and pretend you “totally support their liberated sexuality” in real life. Ha. Ha.

That’s it for this post, everyone. I was tired of commenting like crazy over at RM from my cell phone, so I figured I would do on big post and in the future when these things come up I can just toss a link. Yeah, I’m lazy.

-Dr. Illusion